Alright, let’s talk about these wedding cards, you know, the fancy paper things you send out so folks know when and where to show up for the big party. Now, some people get all worked up about whose name goes first, the girl’s or the boy’s. I say, does it really matter all that much? But hey, if you wanna do it the “proper” way, whatever that means, here’s what I’ve heard.
So, Whose Name Comes First, Anyways?
Well, from what I gather, most times it’s the bride’s name that goes first. Yeah, the girl. You know, like “Mary Sue and John Paul.” Why? I dunno, somethin’ about her folks payin’ for the shindig, so they get top billing, I guess. Sounds kinda old-fashioned to me, but that’s what they say.
- If Her Folks Are Payin’: Yep, if her mommy and daddy are footin’ the bill, her name’s usually first. Like I said, it’s their party, their rules. They write the check, they get to say who goes where, even on the invite!
- If They’re Payin’ Themselves: Now, if the young couple’s payin’ for their own weddin’, well, they can do whatever they darn please! But even then, lots of times they still put the bride’s name first. Just habit, I reckon.
But let me tell ya, times are changin’. Not everyone’s followin’ these old rules anymore. Some folks, they just put the names in whatever order sounds good to ‘em. Or they do it alphabetically. Or maybe they flip a coin! Honestly, I don’t think nobody really cares all that much these days. As long as you show up with a gift and an empty stomach for all that good food, that’s what matters.
What About the Rest of That Fancy Wording?
Oh, and those invites, they got more than just names on ‘em. They got all sorts of fancy words and whatnot. Somethin’ about who’s “hostin’” the weddin’. That’s just a fancy way of sayin’ who’s payin’ for it, near as I can tell. So, if it says “Mr. and Mrs. Smith invite you…”, well, that’s the bride’s folks. If it says “Together with their families, Mary Sue and John Paul invite you…”, that means the couple’s doin’ it themselves, maybe with a little help from both sides.
And don’t even get me started on all them extra cards they stuff in there! You got the RSVP card, which means you gotta tell ‘em if you’re comin’ or not. And then sometimes you got another card for the reception, if it’s at a different place than the weddin’ itself. Seems like a lot of fuss just to get hitched, if you ask me!
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Just Get Hitched!
Look, at the end of the day, it ain’t the end of the world if the names are in the “wrong” order. Nobody’s gonna show up at the church and say, “Well, I ain’t comin’ in ’cause her name wasn’t first on the invite!” The important thing is that two people love each other and wanna spend the rest of their lives together. That’s what it’s all about, not some fancy piece of paper with names on it.
So, if you’re plannin’ a weddin’, don’t get too hung up on this stuff. Do what feels right for you and your partner. And if someone complains about the names bein’ in the wrong order, well, just tell ‘em to go eat cake! Or better yet, tell them bring some more moonshine!
And for goodness sake, make sure there’s plenty of food at that reception. That’s what people really care about. They want some good grub, some dancin’, and maybe a little bit of that champagne stuff. That’s how you make a weddin’ memorable, not by fussin’ over whose name is on top!
Anyways, that’s my two cents on the matter. Take it or leave it. I’m just an old woman who’s seen a few weddin’s in her day, and I can tell you, it’s the love that matters, not the paperwork.
Tags: [Wedding Invitations, Wedding Etiquette, Bride, Groom, Wedding Planning, Marriage]
