Okay, so I was planning my wedding, right? And we got to the invitations. Now, I’ve always been a bit of a stickler for tradition, but my fiancé, he’s more laid-back. We were looking at the wording, and it hit me – whose name goes first on a wedding invitation? I always thought it was the bride’s name first, but then I started second-guessing myself.
So, I did what any sane person would do – I went down an internet rabbit hole. And let me tell you, it was a wild ride. I started with a simple search, just “wedding invitation name order” and bam, a ton of articles and forum posts. Some said bride first, some said it didn’t matter. It was a mess!
I started reading through some of these articles. Most of them were saying that traditionally, the bride’s name goes first. They said it’s because, back in the day, the bride’s parents were the ones hosting and paying for the wedding. So, it was like they were the ones doing the inviting. Makes sense, I guess. But then, other articles said that nowadays, it’s totally up to the couple. Some people put the groom’s name first, some just go with whatever sounds better. It was all so confusing!
Then, I started thinking about our situation. We’re both contributing to the wedding, and our parents are helping out too. So, it’s not really a traditional setup. I talked to my fiancé about it, and he was like, “Babe, I don’t care whose name goes first. Let’s just pick one and move on.” He’s always so chill, it’s great but sometimes not very helpful. Then I began to realize that the answer should be very simple.
So, here’s what I did. I made a list. Yeah, a good old-fashioned list. I wrote down all the options:
- Bride’s name first (traditional)
- Groom’s name first (modern)
- Alphabetical order
- Whatever sounds better
Then, I looked at our names. His name is a little longer than mine, and it just felt weird to put it first. Plus, I’m a sucker for tradition, even if it’s a little outdated. I like the idea of following in the footsteps of all those brides before me. So, after all that research and list-making, I decided to go with the traditional route. Bride’s name first it is!
Finally I made my decision
Honestly, it felt like such a big decision at the time, but now I realize it’s just a small detail. The important thing is that we’re getting married, and we’re doing it our way. We’re mixing tradition with our own modern twist, and that’s what makes it special. And, at the end of the day, as long as the invitations get sent out, and people show up to celebrate with us, that’s all that really matters.
